When Did Black Women Go Out Of Style?

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Today i had a sit down with some underground artists and a couple of journalist from out of Atlanta. Me and one of the artists began a HEATED conversation on Black women and the image we portray in Hip Hop I have always agreed that black women don't have much of a positive image in hip hop, and i blame that on us for taking the roles that we take in the videos. Females cant blame the men for casting us as "bitches and Hoes" because those are roles that some CHOOSE to take, not ones that they MUST take. I'll save "Portrayal Of African American Women In Hip Hop" for another post.

ANYWAY one of the fellas who just recently moved to Atlanta from NY and I changed the conversation from the Image of Africa American Women in hip-hop to relationships and sex. I asked the gentleman "what attracts you to the opposite sex?" He replied I don't date BLACK women. I wasn't shocked nor was i angered, i was more interested in his Reason. He continues on to say "because black women don't have shit on Hispanic women, black girls are loud, ghetto, angry all the time, bald headed, etc etc etc. SO in my head I'm like maybe he forgot that he was speaking to a Black woman. Did he forget? Maybe he didn't notice, i get mistaken for a Dominican ALOT because i have long hair and fair skin (which is annoying because i quickly correct people "I AM BLACK"). Hmmmm I'm going to have to let him know.

So i tell this guy that I, Myself am black, he says..."Yeah i know ma - (I hate that word with a PASSION) - but your one whose actually pretty with some brains" im flattered, but still ready to defend all of the black women in America. He continues talking about how he wants kids by Spanish women because they "ain't bald headed" and don't have "nappy hair", they watch their kids, and know how to take care of their man, yadda, yadda, yadda, etc, etc, etc. I'M FUCKING OFFENDED. I want to down black men and diss Hispanic women, i want to just go on ranting about all of their flaws but I DIGRESS simply because I LOVE BLACK MEN and Hispanic women have never done anything to me and i actually have Spanish family members, friends, and loved ones. I don't want to stoop to his level of ignorance and self hatred. He's dissing his mother, sister, daughter, grandmother, aunts, and every female in his life because he himself is of the same race as me so they must be as well.

Then the other guys that came along chime in saying how they feel him, they agreed with the bastard. The only other young lady sat there quietly and shook her head in disgust - (after the luncheon i asked her why hadn't she said anything she said because she was so disgusted and she was on the verge of tears listening to them down black women, she also said that she would have been more defensive and angry than i was) - I'm sitting there still wondering if they forgot that Kerri and I were still in their presence, so i ask:

"Do you guys feel this way about ME as well? I'm a black female, My hairs NOT nappy, I have hair, I've taken care of my baby brother and sister as if they were mines, I take care of my boyfriends when i have one, I'm not loud or ghetto, i don't smoke, drink, nor do i do any kind of illegal drugs, i haven't had sex in an entire year and i don't have sex with men who I'm not dating, I'm not a whore, I'm not a gold digger, i have my own money, i have an education. I'm Not all the stuff that you guys say black women are, NOT ALL BLACK WOMEN are the same."

I had to let them know that they're stereotypes HURT and ANGERED me but without seeming like a punk, i had to maintain "G" status at all times.

WHENNNNNNN DID BLACK WOMEN GO OUT OF STYLE?
WHENNNNNN Did black men see it as OK to down us the way they do?
Wheeennnn Did the black man believe the stereotypes of black women and LEAVE US for another race?

Lets get this straight i have NO PROBLEM with interracial relationships and marriages, I happen to have a special place in my heart for Caucasian and Asian men my self. But i would NEVER put my black brothers down like that. I would never diss, or play them like that. ......SMH

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7 Schitzos Talking

I dunno, they are bugging. I love black women. I just think you were around the wrong dudes at the moment. Probably didn't grow up with positive black females in their lives. As I have a mother and 3 sisters so it could have been different for them

I find people like that hilarious and sad at the same time. The best thing to do in a situation like that is make a mental note to stay away from him and his like minded friends lol. He obviously has deep issues within himself and instead of dealing with them he's putting them off on black women. Pssh I'm just hoping that he doesn't procreate because we don't need more people with his ignorance in the world.

>^..^<

this gets me tight as well because I am hispanic and black but I have more of a black culture, then a hispanic one. And I get soooo offneded when guys say they dont date dark skin women and black girls ect. even though i am extrmely light. Its like black people are worse than the white people when it comes to the racism. how can you hate who you are and what you come from. its like our race is all over the place. for the most part we dont stick together like other races do. and we have men that dont date dark skin women and women that dont date dark skin men. its like wtf?? what are we doing here? i myself person have a fetish for dark skin men. thats all I date. I love me a chocolate dude. so yall people dont know what your missing. and In my opnion I have seen better looking black girls than spanish ones and im freakin spanish. Men just dont want bitches with an opnion. theres a difference between attitude and opinion and what we are going to accept and what we arent going to accept. so if they dont like it then fuck it. and for the record i have never seen a bald head black chick. because they keep there hair done. thank you very much.

BOOO! Whatever with the generalizations. I am attracted to black and hispanic and I get shit for even thinking spanish men are cute but whatever. My man now is black though. ;-) Love him.

What about those who date out side their race for that "good hair" lol LOSERS!

"i want to just go on ranting about all of their flaws but I DIGRESS simply because I LOVE BLACK MEN"

We love ya'll, too. I don't know about those nincompoops, but they might have been talking that shit because it was more of them than ya'll. They know damn well if they were in a room full of black women they would've held their tongues. At least we know Yung Berg isn't the only asshole of his kind. I mean, seriously, nappy hair? Really?

one word answer to ur question at the top..

"never"

and they never will :)

REAL TALK I DUNNO WHUTS WRONG WITH HOMEBOY, LOOKED LIKE HE WAS SMOKING THE SUM BAD WEED OR WHAT BUT HOW THE HELL U GONNA SAY U HATE DATING BLACK WOMEN, ALSO I DUNNO WHAT EXPERIENCES THIS DUDE HAS HAD WITH BLACK WOMEN. IMO, 4 FACT THAT BLACK WOMEN ARE SEXXY, BEAUTIFUL, INTELLGENT & UNIQUE IN THEIR OWN WAY, AND IT'S TOO BAD THAT PPL LIKE HOMEBOY HASN'T HAD A GOOD EXPERIENCE OF DATING BLACK WOMEN.

TECHIE

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